This is something we hear a lot of...and I do mean a lot. If youre one of those for whom this is an issue, know that you are not alone. There are many out there who, for whatever reason, have partners who simply dont enjoy tickling like we do. Many even hate it.
Would I be cheating if I played with someone else?
If you see tickling as purely sexual, it would likely be considered a form of cheating. But, if you see and do it simply as a fun and non-sexual thing, then it wouldnt necessarily be seen that way. At the same time, however, being honest with your partner is a very real consideration. If its something you know theyd have a problem with and do it anyway, they may feel that youre cheating by not honoring that. Communication with your partner is always tops on the list for avoiding problems. So, be sure to discuss it as openly as possible with them.
My partner doesnt want me to have anything to do with playing with other people....even on an innocent level. What do I do?
Well, that depends on you and your partner. If your partner absolutely hates tickling and is completely unwilling to try it, there isnt much you can do. However, if they simply arent sure its something theyd be into, there may still be hope. While we cant really give you anything definite to go on in the way of advice, we did want to share some things weve heard over time that others have found helpful.
- Try working a few light gentle tickles into your normal foreplay. If you dont press the issue or make a big thing of doing it, they may be able to relax and enjoy it as a part of your normal intimacy.
- Try making a deal with them for a special occassion, where you can both play out fantasies with one another. Be sure that if they agree you dont push them too much. Theyre more likely to reject it completely if you go too far with it.
If you have had this experience and found something that has proven helpful, let us know and well add it in here so that others may benefit from it.