Perhaps one of the biggest misconceptions about gatherings is that they are open events that anyone can attend.  In reality, they are private parties set up by individuals (or groups of individuals).  Like any private party, the host/hosts have the final say as to who comes.

So, how do I get to go to a gathering? -  A screening process generally takes place before allowing people to attend.  This often consists of a self-introduction type survey, so the host has some idea who you are.  But, that process may also take into account the way you present yourself to others in online exchanges...since that’s where we’re most likely to know you from.  For example, someone who may be a very nice person in real life situations could be denied admittance to a gathering simply because they consistently act rude online.  While this is unfortunate, that is the person we see.  Often, it’s all we have to base a decision on.

Hosts also do what they can to encourage women to attend...generally giving them a certain degree of precedence in order to create more of a balance in the male to female ratio.  This helps to keep it from being a disappointment for the men who attend, giving them a better chance of finding a gal who’s willing to play.